Depression sets in once everything seems boring and you are lonely and there is no one to talk to.
How to you get out of lonely and boring life? How do you get someone to share your thoughts with? How do you make a long lasting friends that won’t wake up one day and end the beautiful relationship with you?
Most of us are looking to make regular friends and if possible, true, soul friends. We probably have a lot of hi-bye friends — more than we can count. The ratio of my hi-bye friends, normal friends, and true, soul friends is about 60-30-10%. Over the years as I meet more and more people, it has become more like 75-20-5%. I suspect it’s about the same for other people too, with a variance of about 5-10%.
Check out this tips below and get out of lonely and boring life;
1. Be yourself: When you pursue hobbies and activities you enjoy, you have a good chance of meeting people with similar interests. So check out that local lecture on modern literature and sign up for sushi-making lessons. Each event is a chance to make a whole new room full of like-minded buddies.
2. Look up local teams or running clubs: Most cities have adult leagues you can sign up for and meet like-minded people. If team sports aren’t your thing, think about joining a gym or yoga studio. If you go regularly, you’re likely to see familiar faces.
3. Be persistent: While not everyone has the courage to actually do it, most of us know how to pursue a crush. Send flowers to their office. Invite them to a concert featuring a band you know they love. Ask them to check “yes” or “no” under the question “will you go out with me?” (Oh wait, are we not in third grade anymore?). Apply similar (but less romantic) tactics when pursuing a potential friend. For example, send the person an email asking them to lunch or a coffee date next week, and follow up afterward to say you had a good time.
4. Get yourself out there: Once you acquaint yourself more with your inner circle of friends, the next step will be to extend to people you don’t know.
5. Open up: Vulnerability plays a huge part in emotional bonds with friends. Especially early on in the game, open up about yourself when meeting new people. If you keep things surface value, a friendship isn’t likely to grow out of it.
6. Think outside the box: It’s possible that, up until now, all your friends have been 20-something women who work in fashion. But why limit yourself to this particular crowd? You could just as easily hit it off with a 40-year-old who works in finance if you have enough in common. Be open to forming new relationships with coworkers, neighbors, and classmates, no matter who they appear to be.
7. Volunteer somewhere you’re passionate about: Make friends while making the world a better place? Win, win.
8. Connect with genuinity: Often times we are too caught up with our own concerns — such as what others will think of us, what we should say next, what our next action is — that we miss the whole point of a friendship. You can work on the presentation aspects such as how you look, what you say, and how you say things, but don’t obsess about them. These actions don’t (truly) define the friendship. What defines the friendship is the connection between you and the friend.
Show warmth, love, and respect toward everyone you meet. Do things because you want to, and not because you have to. Care for them like you would yourself. If you approach others with genuinity, you will attract people who want to connect genuinely. Among them will be your future true friends.
With these 8 tips, you can break out of loneliness and boring life